I lost my virginity almost 17 years ago. The man who took it became my husband a couple years later, then we divorced 3 years after that. In all of that time I NEVER had an orgasm. He was selfish, and only cared if he got off. Something that he did quite quickly I might add.
Sex with my ex never lasted more that 5 minutes. After finishing, he would get up and leave the situation as soon as he was done. I was left laying there, still wet, and craving more. More inches to his dick, more time with it inside of me, more touching, and more intimacy.
At that point in my life I didn’t know much about BDSM. I knew it had something to do with handcuffs and spankings. Even the thought of that was enough to turn me on. Unfortunately, he was as uninterested in that as he was going down on me.
When I finally got up the courage to kick him out of my life I also got the motivation to learn my own body and what felt good. Using my flip phone (iPhones were not a popular thing quite yet) I would look up images that would excite me. Women spanked and bound. Women kissing and playing with each others boobs. Then I would reach down and start playing with myself. It didn’t take long to figure out what worked for me.
Three fingers working together to rub across my clit. Doing so by moving from left to right then right to left at a rapid pace until my legs tense, my back arches, and then suddenly releases as my orgasm rips through my body. For a long time, this was the only way I was able to have any kind of orgasm. Even with other men. It took years and multiple partners to find just a handful that could bring me to orgasm. Not forcing me doing it myself.
Lucky for me, Nick has been the best at bringing me to the “Big O” without my help. There is one thing I have learned over the past 17 years. I shouldn’t be ashamed of the fact that it can sometimes be hard for me to orgasm. Not everyone has an easy time reaching the finish line. Fortunately, I have found a way to do it to myself quickly. It takes Nick longer to get me there, which means that my sessions now last longer than 5 minutes. Which means more touching, dick inside of me, spankings, bondage, and most of all knowing that he cares enough about me to make sure I am taken care of.
Thank you to Purple Sole for use of the image! https://www.purplesgem.com/2019/10/12/dom-rod/#