Originally, when I started blogging about the relationship between myself and Nicholas it was to sort through my thoughts and help him gain a better understanding on what I was thinking and how I felt about it. I was TERRIBLE at communicating, and I am still working on that. To gain a better understanding on how others “do this thing that we do” I started reading blogs from others like myself, and I got this urge to start writing for others, not just Nicholas, and more importantly me.
I found that every blog has a niche, something that makes them stand out from the rest. For example Kayla Lords has been amazing at being very informative, inclusive, and light. Reading her site you forget that all of the others are red, black, and far more serious that I have ever been in my life.
So what can I do to find my niche? This has been on my mind lately. I don’t want to be a blogger that simply writes erotica, but the posts where I bare my soul (such as this one) don’t get the attention and feedback I feel they deserve. I am sure this all comes with time, but I am an impatient person.
Can I write about the loving side of a D/s relationship? The softer, gentler side that everyone is more secretive about than the kinky things we keep hidden from the vanilla world? Why can’t the two co-exist in our kink realm? Why can’t I talk about how my dominant wrote me a love note then followed it up with a kinky fantasy for Valentines Day?
So I have decided this is what is going to make me different. I am going to focus on the loving, caring, soft, tender side of our world. I have a few ideas to get that ball rolling, but I will need time to figure it all out. If you follow me on twitter (Hello to all of my Tweeps!) you may remember a tweet from the past where I hinted at one of my great ideas.